Have you ever wondered why others think you have unlimited time to do their work? Like the times when you are asked to help with a project that has nothing to do with you, go to a meeting that was not scheduled, or spend your day on helping your friend’s furniture? We are talking about conversations that, when they are over, you ask yourself, “I mean, they really do not understand how much trouble I have?” The fact is that time is the most important non-renewable resource of our lives. In the following, we will pay more attention to this issue and its main reasons.
You can always earn more; But you can never go back in time. Why do others not value your time? The real answer to this question may seem a little strange to you. It’s more a matter of your own actions than it is of others. What are the most important reasons why others may not value your time as much as they should?
1. You do not value your time
As we mentioned, the issue of the value of your time comes back to you more than the problem of others. Others care about your time as much as you value yourself! With some of your behaviors, you create the impression in others that your time is not worth much; So don’t be surprised if they treat you the same way.
Of course, accepting this fact may be a little difficult and bitter for some; But if you look at it honestly, you will find out for yourself. Instead of thinking about your own behavior, you can look at the behaviors you see around you. We all know people who seem to care about their time. People who engage in daily conversations for hours instead of doing useful work. People whose lives have no place in order. Those who can not get their work done on time and usually arrive late for appointments and meetings. We do not mean delays due to unforeseen problems that may occasionally occur to anyone. We are talking about people who have such behaviors become a constant part of their work routine and life.
The importance of prioritizing and planning tasks
Interestingly, such people usually have meetings with people who either arrive late or cancel at the last minute. Such people can not deliver their work on time. They also do not seem to be able to persuade others to do their work on time. Of course, this problem does not have only one reason, and it can be examined from many aspects; But in the end, everything goes back to the groundbreaking point we made. Yes, others value your time as much as you value yourself. For comparison, review the behaviors of people you think have valuable time. Such people make their appointments based on priorities, and not everyone can devote a significant portion of their time to them, and this behavior is intentional.
When you have a meeting with them at 10 o’clock, the meeting will start at the same time. They are usually online 1 or 2 minutes before the start of the virtual sessions. They have also prepared for the meeting before it starts. Such people have a specific schedule for each hour of their day. They even plan for time off and spending time with their family. Of course, they also sometimes have trouble implementing this program and may miss some parts of it. Ultimately, however, their overall performance and output are not comparable to others.
Spending 1 hour with such people seems valuable. They make others reluctant to procrastinate or delay meeting.
2. You have no plans for the days before the start of the week
We have all read and heard a lot about programming; But few are aware of its practical importance in everyday life. If you have no plans for the week ahead, you have a plan for your failure. People who value their time always have a specific schedule for the days before the start of the week. By setting a regular weekly schedule for days when you are not relaxing or traveling, you can make the most of your time. Having a set schedule also shows others that you are not wasting your time and will not let others decide about your weekly schedule.
3. You have not decided on the type of people you want to spend time with
One of the most important things you can do to help ease the way is to find the right people for you. We do not mean gender and racial stereotypes. Classification is based on the role they play in your personal and professional life. The fact is that no one has enough time to see “everyone”; So it is better to determine in advance with which model of people you want to spend time.
For example, when you start your company, you may decide to spend time with people who join your team as interns; But as the company grows and the number of interns increases, you may not be able to socialize significantly with them. In such a situation, it may be better to decide to spend your time with the people in charge of training and guiding the trainees.
If you are familiar with the 80-20 rule, you know that you do 80% of the useful work in only 20% of your time. Rule 80-20 also applies here: Spend most of your time with people with whom 80% of your work is done. If you succeed in doing this and can spend 80% of your time with those with whom 80% of your work is done, you will be amazed at the result.
4. You enter into conversations and meetings without a specific purpose
Have you ever asked yourself in the middle of a meeting what I do here? Have you ever hosted such a meeting yourself? We have all been victims of boring and meaningless meetings. Many of us have hosted such meetings once or twice. If you do not want others to value your time, invite them to a meeting without a specific schedule! If you can not clearly state the purpose of the meeting you are holding, no one else will be able to do it. Of course, it is not just the purpose of the meeting that matters; Ineffective and ineffective appointments will have the same devastating effect on you. The same is true of friendly conversations.
5. You waste hours without doing anything
If you are one of those people who spends a few hours on work but has nothing to offer at the end of the day, you probably do not value your time. At this time, you may be entertaining yourself by replying to emails, browsing social media, and surfing the web; But in practice you have not done anything right and you can not move on to the next work. This is very common in office environments; Because unlike the automotive product line, you do not have to install one every four minutes on the car being assembled to avoid being fired. Of course, if you just surf the internet instead of working, you may be fired.
In the office environment, delivery of work by the due date is sufficient; So instead of being fired, you are more likely to do your job later and later at other times, such as late at night, on weekends, or on holidays. This is not a good idea at all and it shows to others that you do not value your time enough. As a result, you can not expect others to respect your time constraints until you break the habit.
6. You will respond positively to any request
When you respond positively to any request that is made to you, you put the priorities of others above your own. Do not forget to practice saying “no” (while maintaining respect and courtesy). By saying no, you can avoid wasting time without causing inconvenience and conflict of mind, with the right prioritization. This way, you can focus more on your goals and how to achieve them.
7. It is easily distracted
Suppose you are in the middle of doing something very important or about to start your daily exercise. In the meantime, the phone rings, your roommate rings, or you receive a work email. If you give up on what you are doing right away, you will be in trouble in the long run. The fact is that these distractions over time take more time from you and disrupt the progress of your work. It’s a good idea to set aside time at a certain time of day to manage emails, process co-workers’ requests, or answer phone calls. This way, you can safely turn off your smartphone at other times and do just what you need to do.
8. You are always available
Due to the growing use of smartphones, we are expected to respond to emails, text messages or phone calls as soon as we receive them. This is not possible in practice; Because we all need time to be alone and disconnected from others. If you are always available, the quality of your communication with others will decline. It is best to set a specific time frame and communicate it to others. In this case, no one will send you an email at the end of the last working day of the week. Others know that they should not wait for a reply after the weekend, and you know that you should not spend your weekend answering work messages.
Do you have similar experiences? Which of the above factors is most often seen in your life and which one do you think has caused others to not value your time as it should? Share your thoughts and experiences with us through the “Post a Comment” section.