For people who are not assertive and do not reinforce it in themselves, the decision is painful. These people spend a lot of time and energy making less important decisions, and when they need to make an important decision, they get into a lot of trouble. By reading this article, you will realize how you can be decisive in all aspects of your life.
To make the right decision, we need two tools that human beings have not yet mastered: the omniscient and the time machine! Only if we have this tool can we be aware of the consequences of our decisions and make the right decision.
The first principle of decisiveness is to know that you can never make a perfect decision; The heavier the options, the more likely you are to end up wrong.
When you overcome the misconception that frightens you of the consequences of decision-making and forces you to over-examine options, you take an important step toward being decisive. The result of this erroneous mentality is just a waste of energy, passivity and even analytical paralysis.
Here are some tips to help you increase your work ethic, behavior, relationships, and management.
1. Examine how long the final outcome of the decision will take effect
The first step to becoming a decisive person is to examine the effect of the end result of the decision on how well you feel; Examine the consequences of your decision in a week, a month and a year. If the impact of the decision is great at different times, you have the right time and energy to consider it. Otherwise, spending too much time is forbidden! Some people even have trouble choosing food in a restaurant, when it really does not matter!
Many people become paralyzed just because they are afraid of the outcome when making a decision, but when they look at the outcome over a longer period of time, they find that even the worst results will not have much effect after a while.
۲. Use the “only available” test
When you are hesitant between several options, imagine for more certainty that there is only one way in front of you and you have to choose it, then evaluate the result. For example, if you do not know whether to choose Shiraz or Isfahan for your leisure travel, first think that the only option in front of you is Shiraz. How would you feel if Shiraz was the only destination you could choose to travel to?
Do the same test for Isfahan. How would you feel if Isfahan was the only city you could choose to travel to? You can now choose which one you prefer. If the result of examining both options was the same, it means that their priority is the same and it does not matter which one you choose. So without a doubt, buy your ticket and enjoy your trip!
3. Compare the results of different decisions
Decision making is not always easy, and even the most decisive people can not be completely decisive when making important decisions. One way to choose the best option is to compare the results of different decisions.
Imagine being offered a new job and having to choose whether or not you want to change jobs. Write down the benefits of your current and new job and compare them. Keep rehearsing it until you can say it with conviction and confidence. Of course, this comparison is hypothetical for changing jobs, and everything is based on probability. As we said before, we do not have a time machine and we can not be completely sure!
4. Learn more
If you still can not compare the different options, it means you need more information. The type of information you get about options is also very important. For example, when choosing a job, checking whether a person has been successful in that position is not correct information. You are completely different from that person and you get different results. The information you need to check is the characteristics needed to work in that position.
5. Consider running multiple options simultaneously
One way to increase assertiveness is to not have to make decisions and to be able to run multiple options at once. When choosing a major, you may be interested in more than one area that may not be related; For example, love chemistry and painting at the same time. Can’t you study chemistry at the same time and take design courses at the same time? Or when choosing a travel destination, can not you plan to go to both Shiraz and Isfahan?
6. Define your values
Once the destination is clear, choosing the right route at crossroads becomes easier. Always remember your values and missions in life when making decisions to choose the option that is in line with your goals.
For example, if you know in your workplace that product quality is value, you will be firm in management and will oppose any offer to produce a low-quality product, even if it costs less.
7. Decide in advance
Our mind has a certain capacity to make decisions during the day, and when it gets tired, its power of choice decreases drastically. We need to plan what we are spending this energy on; Choosing clothes or deciding on the path of business development!
To decide in advance, it is best to take an hour a week to write down what you eat for lunch and dinner each day or what you want to wear that day. Do this once a week and save yourself from everyday conflict!
8. Get out of your comfort zone
One of the most challenging decisions to make is when you have to choose between something you have done before and something new and unknown. In this state, your brain tries to keep you in a safe and well-known mental range. Not surprisingly; The brain’s job is to keep you alive, not to care about your happiness and success!
Imagine meeting someone you have never met. As the time for an appointment approaches, you feel better staying home and watching TV. Probably a factor as to why they’re doing so poorly. Without selecting the unknowns and trying them out, you will not have any new achievements and everything will either stay the same or get worse! The benefits of entering the unknown are far greater than staying away from them.
9. Ask yourself: Is this the last time I can make this decision?
Answering this question is one of the best ways to increase assertiveness in work or behavior. Many decisions for which you spend a lot of mental energy are repeated over and over again. Even if the worst results are obtained, you can learn from it and choose better options next time. For example, if you can not decide which food to choose in a restaurant, think that you will have the power to choose again on other days, and if you regret your decision, you can make up for it.
10. Trust yourself
To learn how to be a decisive person, you need to boost your self-confidence and self-confidence.
Logic has a special place in life, but the most important decisions are made based on intuition.
You need to feel your inner voice and hear it. This call tells you what the right decision is. Of course, sometimes the conditions for hearing the inner voice are not provided and the person is so engrossed in different thoughts and stress that he completely forgets the voice of his heart and looks for an outside person to tell him what to do. It is better to rest, sleep or walk a little instead of stress and tension. When you are calm, the inner voice is clearly heard.
۱۱. Set deadlines for your decisions
When you make a decision on something too long, you lose the power to make the right choice. So it is better to set a deadline for your decisions. This trick is also applicable to important life decisions. For example, if you plan to quit your current job and start your own business, you will probably be hesitant for a long time. To be firm at work, you can determine that when your investment reaches a certain amount, you will resign to start your own business.
۱۲. Eat less!
One of the most important reasons for not being decisive in behavior is having regrets.
- I wish I had not made this decision.
- I wish I had chosen another job.
- I wish I had not entered into this relationship.
- I wish…
All these regrets will accompany us in new decisions and make us hesitate. Commit to not regretting your decision, even if it is not good. Spend a few hours upset about the wrong decision and get ready for a new life the next morning!
Determination in a relationship, job or anything else comes from within us and we can not wait to become decisive after a mysterious event. When you consciously practice deciding more decisively on any issue, over time this trait will become part of your personality and you will subconsciously become a decisive person.
Are you a decisive person? What do you think is effective in achieving determination?