Are you one of those people who is hurt by the way you treat those around you? For some reason, have you been forced to remain silent, or have you sometimes become frantic and behaved in a way that later made you regret it? If your answer is yes, you will be redirected to the correct page. We all know that there is a lot of bad language around us. These people are more likely to harass others, and we have not learned how to deal with them properly. But what is the solution? Tangofu author Sam Horn is a difficult way to deal with people. He examines this in detail. This book shows us how to treat these people properly. In fact, Ms. Horn teaches the audience that she can defend herself like a martial artist with the art of language. Follow us to introduce this effective book to you.
Introduction to the book Tangofu, how to deal with difficult people
- Title: Tangofu, a way of dealing with difficult people
- the writer: Sam Horn
- Translator: Nafiseh Motakaf (suggested by users)
- number of pages: 328 pages
- Publishers: Lessons (User Suggestions)
About the author of the book Tangofo, how to deal with difficult people
Sam Horn is the American author of the book and the founder and CEO of INTRIGUE AGENCY. کمک Helps people to increase their impact on the audience through the skills of writing, presenting, speaking and..
Tangofo was written in the same way and is one of the New York Times bestsellers. Ms. Horn has given many lectures in various countries around the world and has inspired many audiences.
Due to his personal and professional ability, he works as a “proper communication” specialist and works with large companies. Terry Jones, Founder of Travelocity, Passage Author Gail Sheehy, Charlie Pellerin, Project Manager of the Hubble Telescope, and Betsy Myers in His First Active Presidential Campaign COO) are among those who have chosen Sam Horn as their advisor.
Most of Horn’s talk has been aired on Ted. Those who are interested in his works can refer to His website Learn more about this author.
Other works by this author include the following books:
- “One day” is not a day of the week;
- Win for…;
- Stand up in any community!
- What is holding you back?
- How to focus on success?
About the book Tangofo, the way to deal with difficult people
First, Sam Horn talks about the original idea of writing this book. This article shows what the reader of this book will achieve in the end. “It simply came to our notice then.
“In 1989, Dr. Ray Oshiro, a continuing education program specialist, asked me to hold a conference at the University of Hawaii on how to deal with bad people. We both saw a direction: the growing demand of organizations for how to help employees learn how to deal with a rude client, as well as how to deal with employees who do not feel cooperative.
As I read about this, I realized why most people are unfortunately not ready to engage in unreasonable behavior. In schools, conflict and inconsistency are not taught alongside subjects such as history, science, and math. As a result, people do not know what to do or say in front of someone who treats them badly. “Most people either behave mildly or suffer in silence, and none of these reactions are helpful.”
Tangofo teaches you how not to let others bother you with misbehavior. Just like kung fu and karate, you learn to take care of yourself with a few defensive moves. [علت نامگذاری کتاب، الهامگرفتن از نام ورزشهای رزمی است].
In this book, the author has written appropriate language skills that the audience can use can Control stubborn, violent, grumpy, abusive and strict people. Therefore, in dealing with difficult people, there are better solutions than “silence and selfishness” or “confrontation and violence”.
These solutions are many and each person may be able to use a particular method. Although the many solutions seem a bit confusing, the author cites each with a real example. This allows the audience to choose the right solution according to their circumstances and situation.
The book quotes Jonathan Swift as saying, “You can not give reason and logic to someone who does not understand logic.” This book shows the audience how to control an annoying relationship without having to engage in delusional discussions.
The structure of the Tangofu book, the way of dealing with difficult people
The book Tangofu consists of four main sections. The author has dedicated each section to a specific topic. In the first part, the reader with the concept of «بجا “Answer” becomes familiar. In the second part, the difference between “what should be said and what should not be said” is described. The third part teaches the audience how to calm the tense situation and avoid arguing.
In the final section, strategies are provided to maintain one’s mental health so that if confronted with a person who was in no way controllable, one can take care of oneself to pass through that person with the least negative impact. In the following, we will review the chapters of these four sections:
- Response instead of reaction;
- Speaking professions, unspeakable professions;
- Turning conflict into cooperation;
- Get more wanted, needed, right…
Part 1: Answer instead of reaction
- Chapter One: Overcoming Helplessness;
- Chapter 2: Controlling Arguing Through Jokes;
- Chapter 3: Empathy with People Who Have Problems;
- Chapter 4: Quick End to Complaints and Complaints;
- Chapter Five: Dignified Withdrawal from Arguing;
- Chapter Six: Reading the Opposite Hand;
- Chapter 7: Sticking the tongue to the roof of the mouth;
- Chapter 8: Speaking When One Does Not Know What to Say;
- Chapter 9: Finding a solution instead of finding fault.
Part 2: Proficient professions, unspeakable professions
- Chapter Ten: Confirmation Instead of Argument;
- Chapter Eleven: Coaching Instead of Criticism;
- Chapter Twelve: Turning an Order into a Request;
- Chapter Thirteen: Clearing the Mind of the Obstacle of “You Can’t Because”;
- Chapter Fourteen: Getting Rid of Problems;
- Chapter 15: Avoiding Exaggeration.
Part 3: Transforming Conflict into Cooperation
- Chapter Sixteen: Being All-Listening;
- Chapter Seventeen: Rules for Unrestrained Behavior;
- Chapter 18: Pulling down the wick of argument;
- Chapter 19: Acting with an open mind;
- Chapter 20: Partnership in Supervision;
Section 4: Receiving more demands for the right to need
- Chapter Twenty-one: Choosing the Way of Struggle;
- Chapter Twenty-two: Saying No;
- Chapter Twenty-Three: Careful Ending the Conversation;
- Chapter Twenty-Four: Acting with Confidence;
- Chapter Twenty-Five: The Five Principles of Persuasion;
- Chapter Twenty-six: Getting rid of bullies;
- Chapter Twenty-seven: Giving Opportunity for Another Beginning;
- Chapter Twenty-eight: Controlling Emotions;
- Chapter Twenty-Nine: Maintaining a Positive Attitude;
- Chapter 30: Killing with Kindness;
- The last word: to accomplish the goal.
Is this book for you?
Reading this book will be useful for everyone in the community. If there are difficult, tough, stubborn people around you with whom you have always been silent or forced to be like them and make things harder, this book may be the right choice for you. You can also give this book as a gift or introduce it to your friends and loved ones so that they can also benefit from the applied art of this book.
Excerpts from Tangofo, How to Deal with Difficult People
You ask why you should spend your time and energy just to understand why someone is unkind? Because it is in your interest. There have always been and will always be bad people in the world. Virginia Satire suggests: We should not let limited people’s insights set limits for us. In other words, we must not allow our limited vision to set limits for others. (P. 40)
If you do not like the way people treat you, you have a choice. You can react without thinking and say whatever comes to your mind. Or you can pause for a moment and look at it from the other side. In this way, you will achieve peace of mind. (P. 73)
Are you disappointed? Try some verbal kung fu. This verbal technique helps maintain inner harmony by advancing into despair and futility. (P. 83)