With a little care, we will realize that many of us consider one of the most important and somewhat strange components of a good and productive life to be the balance between work and life. Equilibrium is a concept rooted in the fact that conditions remain stable and do not change. If this balance became the basis of our lives in any way, assuming our parents were never upset, we did not worry about our children, and our business was always thriving, then we would never be willing to change the situation. In this article, we will learn how to get better results by changing our approach instead of balancing work and life.
The problem is that such desires and inclinations do not have a solid foundation and imply a way of thinking that work is bad and life is good; Working takes us away from ourselves, but we find ourselves again in our lives; Working is difficult and tedious for us, but we live with passion, and ultimately the belief is rooted in our minds that the main challenge we face is to balance work and life. To cope with the stress of work with the good moments of life.
But working is not the opposite of living. Work is also a part of life. Just as family, friends, community, and hobbies are the foundation of our lives and each part of it. These different aspects of life, for all their good and bad, sometimes bring us good moments and sometimes cause us frustration and unhappiness. Working is not separate from other aspects of life. But when we look at it as an issue that is inherently bad and troublesome, we deprive ourselves of the opportunity to find a better view of it.
Perhaps if, instead of trying to strike a balance that seems impossible, we take the same approach to work as we do to other aspects of life, we will achieve better and more rewarding results. If we try to maximize what motivates our interest and passion. But how can this approach be implemented? This is a question that we will answer later.
Different views of people in the face of the tasks they are responsible for
Consider two collaborators who have exactly the same tasks. Those moments of work that are enjoyable for one of them will not necessarily be pleasant for the other, and each has a fundamentally different perspective. In a recent interview with a number of anesthesiologists, the interviewees concluded that although the tasks of these specialists are exactly the same, what is exciting for one of them is boring for the other, and in this respect they are different from each other. have. For example, one of these anesthesiologists stated in an interview that he loves most the thrill of keeping his patients at the precise and calculated point between life and death, but even thinking about the pressure to bring each patient back to consciousness. It suffers from the end of the surgery, it shakes the tension. Another loved the moments when he had to sit and talk to the patient in bed before surgery, and most of all he enjoyed the sensitivity and calmness that he had to expend to bring the patient back to consciousness. Another expert was interested in the mechanism of anesthesia and devoted himself to how exactly each drug affects the patient’s body and causes anesthesia.
The truth is that each of us, because of our unique spirits and circumstances, will need different activities, situations, moments, and interactions to get excited and energized.
The importance of the things we enjoy doing
Suppose the general picture of our lives is created by the intertwining of disciplines, and these disciplines are, in fact, different activities and aspects of our lives. Some of these strands will be black, some gray and some white. But there are other categories among them that seem to be quite different. These different activities show our boundless interest in them: before their time comes, we think about them and wait for them; And when we are doing them, we feel so good that we do not even notice the passage of time; And finally, when they reach the end, we get a double spirit. These activities are the red threads of life. The results of a study conducted at the Mayo Clinic showed that physicians who had at least 20% of these hypothetical areas of their lives consisting of red fibers were much less likely to suffer from burnout.
How can we change the way we think about our work?
The easiest way to change our outlook on our work is to love our work for a week. It may seem a little strange at first glance, but by following the process that we will explain below, you will better understand the issue. Keep a notebook and take it with you every day of the week during one of the usual work weeks. Divide the booklet into two separate sections with these two titles: “I liked it” and “I did not like it”. During the work week, whenever you feel like you are enjoying a particular job or activity, write a brief description of that activity in the “I liked it” section. And every time you felt the opposite and did not want to do what was assigned to you (something that you constantly procrastinate, or wish you would never do again. ), In the section “I did not like him”, write a brief description about it.
Of course, there are things that will not fit in either of the two parts of the notes. But if you spend a week loving your work, at the end of the week you will see things in the “I loved it” section that set you apart from other things and make you feel better about them. These activities (activities) motivate you and improve your mood.
Research has been conducted on a number of employees in 19 different countries. Based on the results, 73% of these employees claimed that they had the freedom to modify or modify their work in a way that was more in line with their abilities and desires. But only 18% of them were able to make that claim.
Separation of work from life; A challenge to change this practice
The challenge before you is to use the red strings of your hypothesis wisely to change the content of your work and how you feel about it over time. In a way that mostly includes activities that you enjoy doing.
We should not separate “work” from “life” and consider them as two separate categories. If we try to balance the two, we will not get toothpaste results. Instead, think of these as actions that you must take on a regular basis, such as “love or affection” and “hate or hatred.” Our ultimate goal should be to change the various aspects of our work over time, in a regular and slow process, so that our work becomes more and more inclined to love and affection, and away from hatred or disgust.
Do not forget that taking this approach is not just to make us feel better. More interest in our work makes us a better colleague, friend and family member, and we can play a more positive and better role in the lives of our loved ones. Also keep in mind that in practice, it is not possible to do just what we are interested in. But we can find certain characteristics and points in what we do that we are more interested in. what is your opinion? How do you feel about your work? Can you think of a way to improve this feeling? Share your thoughts with us and the readers of this article.