Have you ever felt that you could not do your job as planned? Has your boss ever sent you on a mission in the 90th minute? Do you accept any project they offer you? If the answer to these questions is yes, you probably feel helpless and out of control! If so, this article will help you a lot. Here are 10 effective ways to set boundaries in the workplace. These strategies make us work smarter, gain more respect, and be more productive.
Research shows that job stress is a major cause of anxiety in adults. This issue has increased dramatically in the last few decades. The main reason for this is that technological advances have made it possible for us to monitor our work 24 hours a day. In other words, the line between work and life has been blurred.
By our behavior we show others how to treat us! Use the following tips to help you show others how to behave in the workplace.
1. Define your job description
Sometimes working simply with the guidance of our manager or boss can help set boundaries in the workplace. Ken Blanchard, author of The One-Minute Manager, recommends:
- In the beginning, both you and your boss should make a to-do list of what you believe is your job. This exercise will help you a lot, because there are usually differences between the two lists;
- Then prioritize your tasks;
- Finally, discuss the priorities with your boss and reach an agreement.
2. Audit your behavior
In addition to getting help from your boss, auditing and reviewing your own behavior in the workplace also helps create clear boundaries. Start by identifying situations and people that are causing you anxiety. Keep notes of what you learned from the process. If you find that these things are causing you anger, hatred or guilt, you should consider them in setting your boundaries or discuss them clearly and reach an agreement.
3. Set boundaries
Once you understand what you need to focus on, start demarcating. For example, not checking work emails between 6 and 9 pm because you are with your family can be one of your boundaries. Another limitation may be to tell your manager that he or she needs to inform you about business trips a week in advance so that you can coordinate your personal life and family travel plans.
4. Talk clearly
Once you have defined the boundaries, you need to talk about them clearly, transparently and confidently with your team members or co-workers. For example, if you do not want your co-workers to call you at any time, tell them when you can answer business calls. If you do not want to be contacted on weekends or holidays, except when absolutely necessary, clarify what situations are essential. If someone ignores your boundaries, let them know right away. It is better to emphasize your limits in the moment and do not delay it.
5. Delegate more
Good leadership means delegating authority and delegating tasks to others! If you are doing the work of 50 people alone and you feel helpless in any task, know that you have difficulty delegating authority. Fortunately, this skill can be learned. Learn to stop doing everything, trust your team and use their abilities.
6. Pause before answering
One of the tricks that prevents rude “yes” to any request is the art of pausing. For example, the next time your boss asks you to go on a one-minute mission, pause before answering. This gives you the opportunity to review your schedule and see if it interferes with your priorities. If necessary, you can ask for more time and say, “Maybe I can go. Let me look at my plans; I’ll inform you.”
7. Practice saying no
Peter Bergman is the author of 18 Minutes. He advises us to choose a simple and low-risk situation to practice saying no. For example, say no to a waiter who offers dessert; Say no to the traveling salesman who wants to sell you something; In a room alone, say “no” out loud for 10 minutes. It may sound crazy, but it does strengthen your muscles!
8. Have a written method
David Allen is a productivity expert and author of Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free High Performance. He recommends assigning one of the following options to each of our tasks:
It is important to take time only once for each task and move on to the next item.
9. Have a framework
Create a framework to get rid of long and time-consuming meetings with your boss. One way to create a framework is to prepare a minutes. Minutes help you to be in control and to be stronger as a leader. Another way to create a framework is to hold meetings in a place where neither side is present. Instead of flocking to your boss to knock on your room from time to time unknowingly, it is best to have short weekly meetings.
10. Be prepared for negative feedback from others
Once the boundaries have been set, you should expect negative feedback from others. This confirms the need to set boundaries and make them effective. Imagining a situation where our boundaries are not being met and visualizing the reaction we are showing is a useful exercise. Thus, if such a situation occurs in reality, we can deal with it logically and not emotionally.
Employees who set boundaries for themselves are happier and more productive. Such people are respected by others because they respect themselves.
Setting boundaries means we have the courage to love ourselves, even at the cost of offending others. Our value does not depend on the approval of others. When we truly and wholeheartedly value ourselves, we can say to others, “Enough!”
– Bernie Brown
How do you behave in the workplace? Do you get along well with your co-workers and bosses? Do you have a problem dividing tasks and prioritizing? What experience do you have in dealing with the extravagance of others? How did you get through it? How expressive of your experience may be helpful to readers.